Why I am Choosing to Still Shop at Target

Thursday, April 28, 2016

I've questioned writing this post this whole week. 
I've gone back and forth between thinking it was a good idea and then a bad idea.
 I finally decided... That this is my blog, my little space of the internet, and I will say what I feel for that reason.
And just a friendly reminder, to each his own. 

When Target announced their policy on allowing transgender people to use whatever restroom they please, I must admit I felt a little... unhappy with the news.
I should start off by saying that I am LDS, or Mormon.
For those of you who are familiar with the religion, you would probably agree with me in saying that most LDS people are quite conservative in their beliefs.
I contribute to validating that statement because most all of my beliefs are very much so conservative. 
When it comes down to religion and morality, I don't agree with the LGBT community.
If you want to think that is terrible of me... go right ahead, but that is where I stand.
However, I believe in the Bible and all the words in it, so I have chosen not to feel hate towards them but to try and show love and kindness just as our Savior does because even when you disagree, it is possible to still love. 

That being said, let's talk about the mean words people have been throwing around on Facebook statuses, blog posts, and articles all around the internet. 
I have been dismayed when seeing people so quick to judge and assume that just because someone does not agree with what they believe, they immediately assume they are being hateful and decide to call them things such as a bigot, or showing discrimination. 
I cannot speak for all of us, but I will say that most people are not actually any of those things.
They are merely stating what they believe and that is actually an okay thing to do.
I like being educated and though this may sound weird to my grandparents, social media is a great way to become educated on world wide topics and hear other people's opinions these days. 
So please, stop being so quick to judge. 
Whether someone is completely okay, or upset with this policy, I don't think they have chosen where they stand out of hate. 

Let's move on now...
I guess in writing this article I must state that I am not happy about Target's policy.
However, I'm not going to let it stop me from shopping in their stores.
So, why am I not okay with this?
I'm sure that most people like to believe that it is because I hate transgender people, but that is most definitely not the case.
I am almost positive I have been in a bathroom with a transgender person at one time or another.
I don't know if I have... but I'm pretty darn sure the odds are pretty great that I have been.
Does that bother me? Nope. Not one bit.
Why? Because they were in there to go to the bathroom, just as I was.
They didn't bother me, and I hope that I didn't bother them.
We both did our business, and left.
Target has now opened those (once slightly more secure) doors to anyone and everyone.
I like my privacy, but I like feeling safe even more. 
I now feel worry, and I just don't like that.
Not because transgender people are "aloud" to go in the same restroom as me now, I'm sure they were already doing that... but because the door is now open to anyone to walk into any restroom without being questioned.
I feel as though that may cause less secure circumstances in the walls of a bathroom.
And yes, to those of you thinking it, you are probably right that this scenario may not happen often... but it sure can happen easier now.
I honestly believe that Target didn't even need to come out with this policy because transgender people were more than likely already using the bathroom they wished.
Now that they have put it out in the open, the debate at this point isn't even about those that are transgender... it is about safety. 
Before rambling too much on that topic because I'm sure I have several of you disagreeing with me at this point, I just want to say this is not stopping me from shopping at Target. 

I love Target.
More than ever since becoming a mother.
I like buying things comparable to something I could find at Anthro at a way better price.
I also love that I can wander for an hour and not get bored.
Target usually leaves me feeling happy and inspired to redecorate my house. Every time.
I don't agree with this new policy, but I'm also not going to let hate fill my heart and stop shopping there.
Remember earlier, when I said I want to love as our Savior does?
I feel that this also applies to shopping at Target.
I am fully entitled to my own opinion on where I stand with agreeing or disagreeing with whether or not being a transgender person is right or wrong, as are you, but I don't think that it is our place to judge others opinions and choices. 
I think that is the Lord's place, and he will ultimately decide.
 So, I am choosing to spend my days loving instead of judging. 
Does that mean I don't have a personal stance on the topic? No.
I have my own beliefs and I am staying true to them, but I will continue shopping at Target because I am choosing to show love over hate and not judging Target for making a decision that doesn't align with my own thoughts. 

All my love,
Aleigh Joy

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  1. It seems like everything gets blown out of proportion these days due to lovely social media! I don't necessarily agree with the stance Target has taken, but like most things these days, I'm with you and will choose love and carry on. Maybe be a little more careful if I feel it's needed.

    As for the LGBT community, my little brother is gay (and also a devout Mormon) and upholds the same standards as any other single LDS member would. He will never marry, he will be a bachelor his whole life, and he secretly went through much depression. It has been a game changer in my life as to how I view LGBT and the level of empathy and love I have for them, even those who've reached a breaking point and have left the church. I would encourage you to learn more about the LGBT community before saying you disagree because being that way is not wrong, decisions regarding morality are separate.

    My brother is part of the community! And I love him! If you have interest you can read this: