Real Beauty.

Monday, April 15, 2013
I wasn't planning on blogging tonight, I didn't have anything in particular to say.
Then, I came across a video, and I got an impulse to type. I've learned better than to deny those thoughts and feelings so here goes nothing.

A woman is her own worst, and most harsh critic.
Not many women can look in the mirror and say to themselves, "I look beautiful today" and truly mean it. 
Most of the time, a woman doesn't live up to her full potential because an abundance of necessary self-esteem is lacking.

My fingers are stumbling over the keys so slowly as I try to figure out the right words to type.
Trying to enlighten others on a topic I struggle with myself is not the easiest task.

You are more beautiful than you think.
and why was that so hard for me to type?
Because, I belong to the majority. Just like you, and you, and all of you. 
So let's work together. It starts with one simple step.
Take a couple of minutes to watch this video.


Seriously, how powerful is that?
It got me thinking on a whole new level.
I wondered what my sketch would come out as, as I thought about the way I would speak of my features. 
She probably would have chubby cheeks and a nose like Pinocchio. 
But why do I perceive myself that way if others don't?

I remembered something I had written in a journal some time ago and stumbled across it tonight as this topic danced around in my mind. 
"I have been thinking A LOT about insecurities lately. Isn't it funny that we think we are the only ones on the face of the earth with an insecurity of some sorts? Here's the problem: We are so down on ourselves because we only see the very best of people. They can't show us what is going on on the inside, they make us believe their life is perfect and ours is no where near it. Funny because truth be told, we are all fighting our own battles. Everyone has insecurities because we believe that nobody else does... sound about right? I think so."

We truly are, as women, our toughest critics.
So stop.
Stop degrading yourself, judging yourself, comparing yourself, starving yourself, overworking yourself, hurting yourself, and trying to be someone other than yourself. 
Because you are you, and the only person you should try to be better than tomorrow, is the person you were  yesterday.
We are all beautiful in some way or another and all of our strengths are different.
That is what makes us unique.

Let's all do ourselves a favor and treat ourselves a little bit nicer.
After all, life is way too short to spend another day at war with yourself.
Whether it is beauty, talents, fashion, your figure, or anything else...
You've got to be kind to yourself.


All my love,
Aleigh Joy


  1. Thank you Aleigh! This was amazing. PS. You ARE beautiful.

  2. Aleigh, thanks so much for posting this :-) That's such a great video!

  3. Thank you for posting this! It was amazing, and was just what I needed to hear! Thank you! :)

  4. beautiful post! i think most women need to be reminded of this probably... daily :)